Sometimes when I share my story of
how my husband and I got married, I feel as though some people feel it’s not
“romantic.” I know and understand that no one can make you feel anything
without your consent.
I guess I have thought about it a lot
lately because the few girls that I have as friends have these huge rocks on
their fingers. Please don’t get me wrong they are exquisitely beautiful rings.
Just not for me.
So today instead of writing about
books, random thoughts, movies, etc I thought I would share that story, a story
that is a bit personal and is real.
Often how my husband and I met does
not come up. I’m not sure why, it just doesn’t. We actually meet online, and it
turns out we lived about 10 minutes away from each other. Growing up we went to
the same mall, movie theater, but never ran into each other.
When my husband and I first met, all
I could think about was a conversation I once had with my mother. When I was
little I would ask my mom, how do you know when you are in love? She would
reply, you just know. That drove me crazy, but when I met my husband for the
first time, I knew what the phrase “you just know” meant.
During our third date, me being
myself, I said to him why do I get the feeling I am going to be around you for
the rest of my life. And he felt the same way. I knew it was real because I was
not in love with the idea of being love. I felt safe and comfortable. To some
that may not be as romance as the movies, but it’s better than that, its real.
By our third month of dating my husband
proposed. And no he did not give me an engagement ring. I do not say that with
regret, or anger. All that matters to me is that we not only love each other,
but we like each other. After a year of being together, we were both working
and going to school
A little while before Spring Break,
we discussed setting the wedding date. Then we decided to just do it. We loved
each other, and did not want to spend another day being apart from one another.
We wanted to be man and wife. That may not seem romantic to some, but what’s
more romantic than being spontaneous?
My husband and I have been married
for twelve years. Someone once asked me how do we make it work? I shared with
them that less than a year after my husband and I were married he got deployed.
So the best piece of advice I could give them do not spend your time caring
about who is right because life is too short. And don’t go to bed angry,
because after he was deployed we knew more than ever that part of marriage is
friendship.
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