I do …. always

My wedding ring which I like is a silver band. It’s simple and classic. I say like because I cannot say love. What is important is the meaning behind the ring, what it represents. It’s a wonderful reminder of the honor I get of being able to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.

So my husband surprised me this past week. He had my wedding ring inscribed. What I liked about this surprise also is it was just us. Before I continue I’ll try (try) not to have too many side rants or thoughts going on in the story because it’s a story that matters to me, but I can’t promise I won’t end with a quote from my favorite movie About Time.

I will not say what the ring says because there are some things that should stay between the couple. Let’s not forget the Mr. Wiggly awkward fiasco of 2010. If you don’t know who Mr. Wiggly please get on the YouTubes and watch The Guild. In my humble opinion it is a wonderfully, awesome witty show.

During the moment my husband gave me the ring, we realized one of the words was misspelled. It still made me happy because all I saw was the thought that went behind everything he did to surprise me. And I also look at it as a symbol to his dorkiness. Don’t worry its okay he knows I think he is a dork. That is one of the things that first attracted me to him.

We talked about the misspelling a couple of days later and he said while it still bugged him a little, all that mattered was how my face still lit up even after the misspelling. To which I said I am a warrior and an assassin I do not light up. Cue in Fooled Around and Fell in Love.

So the morale of the story here is when it comes to our significant others remember not just the big moments but the small ones. When you’re both on the couch (side rant: I guess depending on which you prefer or how you grew up you can also call it a sofa) reading a book. It’s those small moments that make the big moments special because you know a great big expensive gift pales in comparison to the love.  

To some small moments may sound boring but that’s okay because every couple is different. For me what matters is getting to spend time with my best friend. I get to spend the rest of my life with the one I love. He is everything I never knew I wanted the first day we met. And everything I knew I was missing by the second day in what would be the rest of our lives.

“And in the end I think I’ve learned the final lesson from my travels in time; and I’ve even gone one step further than my father did: The truth is I now don’t travel back at all, not even for the day. I just try to live every day as if I’ve deliberately come back to this one day, to enjoy it, as if it was the full final day of my extraordinary, ordinary life."

Boys who are better in books... and movies... and TV

There is a YouTube video called Boys in Books Are Better by Carrie Hope Flecther.

It got me to thinking I should do that. Not sing, but write about my favorite leading guys in books, movies and television.

Who are these guys you might ask. In no particular order (and of course in jumbled, short thoughts) we have Maurice Moss, Wade Owen Watts aka Parzival, Johnny Martin aka Max Champion, Peeta Mellark, Jordan Catalano, and Tim from About Time.

Moss. Need I say more? One word, Moss! What girl would not like a guy who is the Countdown winner? For those of who are familiar with The IT Crowd know how funny, awkward, and nice Moss is. I know that show is way over, but I still enjoy it. I know most people would say girls would not like a “dork” in real life. Well I like dorks, I did marry one after all. It’s okay he knows that is probably the main reason I married him.

Can we just talk about Parzival for a moment? He is the unintentional hero of the book. It’s just my humble opinion I say unintentional hero because he starts off in the OASIS playing for himself, then he begins to use his powers for good. I apologize where are my manners? For those of you who are unfamiliar with Wade Owen Watts he is Parzival in Ready Player One. Well, his avatar’s name is Parzival. Ten words can sum up my feelings for Parzival, falls in love with a girl he has never met.

Johnny Martin aka Max Champion aka James McAvoy. Okay yes I love me some James McAvoy. Again, it’s okay my husband knows that. Seriously *she says in her best Scottish accent, like McAvoy, which did not work* I like him in the movie Penelope. That is a favorite movie of mine because it is sweet and different. I have never seen a movie where you did not know where it takes place, but it still works. That broke my heart when Johnny has to say no to Penelope’s proposal because he is not Max. He loves her that much he wants her to be happy even if it means letting her go. Love that movie. Go see it … its okay I’ll wait.

Peeta Mellark in the books and the movies. All I am going to say is when I picture Peeta when I read The Hunger Games I could not think of a better actor than Josh Hutcherson. I am not sure if people have a differing opinion but that is just my humble opinion. Anywho. He is a strong, caring, and loving person. I know a lot of people would say he loves Katniss so much he just wants to protect her, which is true but he also respects her independence. I like a guy who know when to listen, and when you need support. That’s why I married a guy like that.

Okay, I know, I know I am here talking about my love for dorky guys and Jordan Catalano is on my list of favorite leading guys. In my defense My So Called Life, Daria, and …. I am going to date myself even more here ….The Wonder Years are shows that I watched when I was growing up. It’s really the nostalgic part of me that has him on the list. I think when we are all younger we have a Catalano or know one in our lives, and that’s okay that’s why they are called crushes.

Tim from About Time is accidentally charming. In case you are wondering that is his name, he has not last name in the credits. If you have read my blog before you know that I have written about this movie. It is the loveliest, beautifully written movie I have ever seen. If you have ever seen Vincent and the Doctor you know what I mean. Richard Curtis is a brilliant screen writer.

So in conclusion, nice guys don’t finish last. I know some people might think hey of course these guys are awesome because they are fictional. Well … okay so it’s a little true. But the way I see is in fiction they are awesome so you know when to recognize it in real life.

I can draw! I can draw?

I recently saw a speaker who asked a group of adults, who here can draw? In a room of over 1,000 people only about 5 or so raised their hands. Then he went on and said, if I went to a high school about 10% of students would raise their hands. Then he asked, if I were to go into a kindergarten class how many students would raise their hands? If you are like me your answer is the same as mine. 100% would raise their hand.

I have been thinking about that question a lot. It’s true what happened? When we (and again this is not in reference to every single person) were younger we were never afraid of being wrong. And we were never afraid of saying I can do this. 

Which reminds me of a movie I’ve seen recently, About Time. For you Bill Nighy fans, if you love Nighy-isms, you’ll enjoy this movie. Tim’s dad played by Nighy tells his son (Domhnall Gleeson) that the men in their family can travel back in time. There are a couple of conditions that come with the time travel. They can only travel to places they have been. Tim decides to use this power to find love, as he and his dad call it the mother ship.

Later in the movie Tim learns his dad (Nighy) has cancer, after he passes away Tim’s wife wants another child. Tim is unsure because it means that he will never be able to see his dad again. If they travel to far back before their children are born they will come back to a completely different child. For example instead of a daughter, they would have had a son.

Tim’s dad tells him to live each day twice. Once with all the tension, and sets of everyday life and the other with seeing everything in appreciation. Soon Time learns just to live life enjoying the small things. 

Sorry I went off on a bit of a rant. One because it was an awesome movie, and for two I have a point to this movie summary.

It seems like the older we get the more in line with society we become, the more afraid we are of saying the wrong thing or just being afraid to make a mistake. At times it can be exhausting because we have to force ourselves to remember the joy in the little things. And it shouldn’t be that way, we should not have to force ourselves. 

I don’t say this to be on a soap box, and my we’s are not to everyone or anyone…just something I have been thinking about.

“Every so often I’ll have, like, a moment. When just being myself, in my life, right where I am is, like enough.” –Angela Chase, My So Called Life.